Have you ever dated a girl with BPD? What's it like?
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Date: November 30th, 2021 12:52 PM Author: Adventurous pale athletic conference
Please regale us with your stories of BPD women. I'm dating a 180 girl and I need to know if this is something I can handle.
This girl is beautiful, thin, intelligent, and fun. She's been going to Latin mass with me and I think she could make a 180 tradwife. Problem is, we've only been dating for a little over a month and yesterday she dropped the bomb; she's got BPD. Honestly I haven't noticed anything yet beyond maybe some clinginess. but last night she told me that she was diagnosed freshman year of college and has been medicated and seeing a psych ever since. Apparently it ebbs and flows with her. Is this going to be a problem down the road?
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Date: November 30th, 2021 12:55 PM Author: magenta heaven
it never ends. first she will push away everyone else in your life and then, when you're the only one left, she'll go back and forth between needing you and hating you until you're dead. they're a total disaster, but the clinginess/dependence/"love" sucks a lot of guys in.
find out how many long-term friends she has. most of them are incapable of maintaining constant relations with other people except for the poor sucker they latch on to, and the only reason that relationship "works" is because he's a beta cuck provider, which she intentionally sought out because she knew no one else would put up with her vicious outbursts.
source: i'm married to one.
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Date: November 30th, 2021 12:59 PM Author: Racy Milk Yarmulke
They are wild rides.
But yeah run.
Satan in all of her beautiful sublimity.
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Date: November 30th, 2021 1:02 PM Author: navy big chapel tank
I met this beautiful teenage girl in my early 20s. The classic organic gf dream. We got married, had kids, and life was great. We took nice vacations, I didn’t work too hard after the kids were born so lots of family time, sex was frequent and enjoyed the entire relationship. Then one night we got in a very minor argument and she declared she hated me and that the marriage was over. She wasn’t kidding.
Stay away, friend.
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Date: November 30th, 2021 1:15 PM Author: stimulating psychic
personality disorders are not really a diagnosis that anyone will prescribe meds for. she has cooccurring problems like depression, anxiety, psychotic symptoms, etc. Those are just the most common for BPDs.
Don’t take advice from XO on this. There are numerous useful books about relationships with BPD afflicted. There is a huge spectrum of behavior. The fact that she is diagnosed and open about it is good news. Self-awareness and recognition means she probably has ability to recognize when her behavior and emotions spiral. The thing you have to reconcile is that there are no meds or cures. She can improve her behavior and stay ahead of it but their brains will not change. There is always heightened risk with these people but it’s often negligible if they have self-awareness and self-control.
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Date: November 30th, 2021 1:27 PM Author: stimulating psychic
Yes, family members and some personal relationships.
They’re really not all timebomb disasters. You have probably been friends or dated people with mild BPD. Many can and do keep their behavior in check, particularly as they grow out the febrile emotions of youth.
XO loves to bullshit about this topic and it’s always the same fake “Dooood, I was smashing this little BPD chick, craziest sex, just a DEMON in the sack, but then she shattered all my car windows and called the cops on me for DV when she saw some texts from my female coworker — get out now! But seriously, they fuck like demons bro.”
The large majority of those comments will be from bored posters who will bullshit about whatever and repeat conventional wisdom. Just download one of the books, they’re cheap and you get actually useful info.
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Date: November 30th, 2021 1:18 PM Author: Curious Piazza Trump Supporter
just use your best judgment
literally anyone who sees a psych will get a "diagnosis" these days; BPD is the just the latest version of "everyone is manic depressive/ADHD/depressed". it's up to you to determine whether she's properly BPD (ie ABORT ABORT) or just a normal person who naively trusted doctors in her youth.
you should know her well enough to either be comfortable asking or already know what lead to her diagnosis.
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Date: November 30th, 2021 1:41 PM Author: Floppy Site
It's hard to say because everyone is different, and I don't want to opine on what you should do with your girl -- I'll only give you a description of what I've dealt with.
1) Amazingly beautiful, wonderful, fun, loving girl wants to be with me;
2) Converted to Catholicism for me, was basically perfect;
3) Prior to marriage, had 2 or 3 explosive fights, 1 in which she climbed on me and was screaming at me in public and threw her ring to the ground;
4) After marriage, a few physical altercations and utter freak-outs;
5) After having 1st kid, had postpartum rage (would scream horrible things (wanting me to die and saying the worst things you could imagine over very minor arguments)) and physically attack me, and then scream so the neighbors could hear that I was abusing her, etc.
6) postpartum rage kind of waned until getting pregnant with second, which is where we are now;
7) When you're Catholic, you can't exactly get divorced (it's against our beliefs);
My conclusions are that every case is different -- you can't trust great behavior prior to marriage because you don't know what will happen once she has leverage (keep in mind that women are generally on their best behavior prior to marriage and especially prior to having kids) or gets pregnant (hormones go screwy and can be compounded by BPD). Again, you should know what you are getting into -- it can be absolute hell with no end in sight except death (but again, I can't advise you as I don't know if you have better options out there -- most would probably say you do, and I can't necessarily disagree with them).
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Date: November 30th, 2021 2:21 PM Author: Provocative Windowlicker Electric Furnace
If BPD is borderline then yes. Girlfriend. Great sex. She would frequently scream at me and claim I had punched her etc. Had to walk on eggshells and not mention her trigger topics or she'd go level 1,000 nuts.
She threatened suicide when I left and did a suicidal gesture. Called all my friends and my employer hysterical, screaming crying. We had sex again when she got out of the mental hospital, incredible. She ate my ass.
Never saw her again after that.
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Date: November 30th, 2021 2:33 PM Author: hot cumskin pit
she takes medicine every day for serious emotional instability, but you can fix her bro
turn off the part of you that feels bad for her. ignore the voice that says you're too tired to start again. that's your biology tricking you because it doesn't know what's coming because cavemen didn't have alimony and would just bash people like that with rocks and be done with it. it will never be worth it to you or your future kids. as for her, she is sub-sentient. like a sociopath, she literally doesn't possess the defining features of an entity endowed with what we know as humanity. she's basically a very smart parasite that slowly kills her hosts.
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Date: December 1st, 2021 9:49 AM Author: magical corner
it's pretty kooky.
it was also really endearing how utterly obsessed with me she became. big ego boost.
just don't make my mistake and stick around too long. you will be tempted to because she will start spamming you with nudes, showing up and refusing to leave, texting how much she wants to fuck you. don't fall for it. don't believe her lies.
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Date: November 30th, 2021 3:14 PM Author: Narrow-minded indian lodge roommate
Borderline Personality Disorder or Bipolar Disorder?
If it’s Borderline - they’re not human. Like psychopaths and sociopaths their brainwaves are different than the rest of humanity. They’re an endlessly hungry beast that sucks life an emotions. Treat them like animals or a homoculus
Bi-Polar in women actually gets better when they have a stable relationship and getting stability/eating right etc and a gradual stable feedback loop and quiet environment. Obviously still a huge challenge.
Think carefully about where you stick your dick.
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Date: November 30th, 2021 4:29 PM Author: thriller set national security agency
I married a BPD girl over the objections of my family and regret it every day. It was utterly miserable. We divorced. Years later she's still a disaster and fighting me over every stupid thing.
Don't do it.
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Date: November 30th, 2021 6:17 PM Author: slap-happy medicated step-uncle's house
To be fair,
It's a spectrum that defines the female gender, just like "autism" is really just the far end of a spectrum that defines the male gender. All bitches are a little BPD, just like all men are a little autistic.
That doesn't mean that a diagnosis of clinical "autism" or clinical "BPD" don't mean anything. They mean a great deal.
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Date: December 1st, 2021 12:08 AM Author: Vivacious salmon party of the first part mother
A lot of people will give you false certainty - like all mental illnesses there's a range of severity and outcomes. But early in a relationship, this is grounds to pull the plug from a rational perspective.
Reasons:
1. BPD people have elevated suicide risk. You want to minimize your odds of dealing with suicide of a long-term GF or wife. Even something like reducing risk from 2% to 1% risk is a huge benefit.
2. If she does not kill herself, she will almost certainly have some self-harm/ideation which is incredibly stressful and shitty to deal with.
3. It is significantly genetic (although not 100% - almost nothing is). You are putting your future kids at risk if you take this relationship all the way.
4. Treatments don't really work and go on forever so there is low probability that she beats it and becomes permanently OK. You're better off with cancer girlfriend who either will get better or won't, but at least there is an endpoint.
5. If you think some other factor compensates like she is +2 points over your expected partner in hotness/excitement/sex - this will fade and you will be left with an aging crazy woman. Also if she really is better than you enough to compensate for BPD, that is an unbalanced relationship that will likely fail for other reasons.
6. There are plenty of women who are a manageable amount of crazy. Better to bail out and try again before you have too much sunk cost on this one.
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Date: December 1st, 2021 9:51 AM Author: nubile pearly business firm
i'm divorced now (happily) with a daughter. just as i was before i met my BPD ex, i'm happy again and single fatherhood is 30x less stressful than trying to be a dad and a parent to my hysterical, petty, willfully helpless BPD ex.
i wish to reach through the screen to shake you: do not do this.
you cannot fix her, and the part of you that wants to is broken.
you cannot take her best and ignore her worst, and the part of you that thinks you can is delusional.
you will not be "different" than her exes (isn't it weird they're all awful) or her family (isn't it weird how they seem nice but they were abusive) or her friends (isn't it weird how there... aren't any left?), and the part of you that thinks you will be is narcissism.
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