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(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5144636&forum_id=2#44781338)

I (F20) met this guy (M25) on Tinder. He’s traveling in my country and left today, this happened a few nights back.

We texted for almost a week before meeting up. He was fun to chat to, although we both did sexual innuendos and he did hint I could come over afterwards. Nothing extreme though, we did not discuss sex at all. I decided I’ll go with the flow and might do oral if I feel safe.

I met him at the beach for the sunset and we just sat down. He was nice, we shared good ideas and conversation. He brought a few drinks and we enjoyed the sunset. It got bit chilly so he wrapped his arms around me and we ended up making out. I felt good about him at this point. He hinted I should come check his place but I told him I won’t come over and he was fine with it.

We kept walking and trying to find a more private spot, because there were still people walking by the beach. We ended up finding a bench where we made out even more, he started fingering me and clothes slowly went off.

We still saw people quite close so we decided to go even closer to the sea, basically a rocky decline. It was dark and no others could see us (which was a mistake eventually.) At this point I was still super horny and wanted to go further.

But his whole persona kinda changed when we were alone in a deserted place by the sea. He was really horny and started talking in a rough language aggressively “I want to fuck you from behind hard” “I want to eat your pussy” then he suddenly took his pants off, pulled his dick out and just said “suck my dick” and smirked.

I felt uncomfortable at this point and said I can give a handjob but no blowjob because of STDs. At this point he says “I’m clean” (which was BS, he told me he fucked a girl a few weeks back in another country and seems to do oral unprotected. He talked about being stingy and STD tests are ~70$ here, so no way he did them and in 2 weeks)

Overall I didn’t believe him. He seemed high/drunk and super scary at that point. He had also went to pee a few minutes earlier into some bush so blowjob was out of question, just unhygienic. He also insisted he has condoms so we can fuck on the rocks (???).

I asked him to sit down on the rock because he’s a big muscular man, and me, a skinny girl, I wanted to feel a bit more in control of the situation that way. There was no way I could run I thought, he’d get me.

He started talking how bad he wants to fuck me there, and I realized I won’t get out easily if I “let him down” and say I can do handjob only. I was giving the handjob already stressed and he pressured me to do more by saying “why don’t you wanna suck? you haven’t done oral yet?” with almost degrading/amused laughter. He also choked me forcefully without asking for my permission, at the same time when he kissed me and I jerked him off. I was scared he’ll force my mouth on to his dick at any point or just choke my breath away.

I decided I’ll lie I want to go over to his place. Luckily that worked but he kept hurrying to get me back to his place - idk what would’ve happened if I was in a one room with him.

When we walked towards his place I started saying how hot he is and how I want to fuck, complimented his muscles/body told him how handsome he is just to get out to where people are too and that he doesn’t suspect I’m trying to get out of the situation.

My friend then called me and I made an excuse luckily in a crowded street. He kissed me goodbye (basically made out) and groped my ass in the public street… Such a scary and gross experience.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5144636&forum_id=2#44781505)

N0_name83726

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6 days ago

love your comment and boundaries. I’d like to ask - I had a situation recently where I was hooking up with a guy, he did gave me oral for maybe 5 minutes and then started fingering very roughly. He didn’t make me cum nor are 5 minutes enough for me. Keep in mind I told him I was close at one point. When I asked afterwards if he could finger with come hither -motion and showed the move to him with my hand/fingers, he just looked without saying anything, totally ignored my request, went to lay on his back and proceeded to ask for a blowjob. I said I won’t give one, he showed bit attitude but then we just did PIV (which I shouldn’t have done, I know, but at that point I thought it was my fault). So yeah, how would you have acted in such situation? Is it okay overall not to give a BJ if I don’t feel like he tried enough?

This girl is out there teasing cock on a regular basis then whining that guys aren't respecting her boundaries or making her come.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5144636&forum_id=2#44781383)

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7 days ago

How do I forget someone I can’t seem to forget? He treated me like shit, so I don’t understand why he’s on my mind constantly.

I went on a few dates with one guy. There were red flags he’d only want sex, and I thought I would be fine with it too. Keep in mind he was my first hookup.

On a 2nd date we had sex, and after that he didn’t text me much although claimed he wants to meet more. I was totally relaxed, didn’t think about him much, and was even fine if we don’t meet up more - honestly the sex was boring, our kinks didn’t match nor did he try to satisfy me.

On top of that he treated me like a crap (I won’t get into this but just trust me on this one), wasn’t attentive at all and his words didn’t match his actions.

Eventually he texted me 2 weeks later if I want to come over again. I agreed, but eventually he ghosted me and bailed on the plans. At this point I got stressed and started thinking all kinds of BS on what I did wrong (although I did nothing wrong, he was in it for sex and probably a new girl in rotation).

From that moment on, I feel like my ego took a hit and I’ve been struggling to forget him.

He came back as if nothing happened, didn’t apologize, and I just didn’t reply. I knew in the best case scenario we’d hookup again, and I’d be left ghosted again questioning why I wasn’t enough.

So logically, there’s no point for me to be sad about him, because the way he treated me was horrible. But for some damned reason my heart still jumps when I see his social media updates or when he comes on dating apps.

What should I do to totally get over him and stop this? It’s been soon a year and it’s annoying. I’m kinda simultaneously repulsed by him, but something in me kinda misses the time we had (for no good reason…)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5144636&forum_id=2#44781395)