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Wife getting inheritance and I feel like a failure

Long story short we both had secure good $85k jobs. We were ...
Insanely creepy ebony site gaming laptop
  09/21/22
I will ask the obvious question. How the fuck did you get a ...
Autistic sapphire center
  09/21/22
Yes, it is stupid to feel this way.
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100%
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By 2030 you will own nothing and you will “be happy&rd...
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how is the sex?
Disturbing vibrant forum
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180 we experiment a lot
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  09/21/22
youre good imo
Disturbing vibrant forum
  09/21/22
any ass play?
Odious trailer park philosopher-king
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Sorry about the grandpa. Good job. I have a news flash for y...
rebellious theater roommate
  09/21/22
Jesus christ don't buy an SUV because you have one kid. That...
iridescent boyish hall
  09/21/22
He’s got 3
Grizzly puppy pisswyrm
  09/21/22
I suck at reading comprehension, but still, buy a minivan.
iridescent boyish hall
  09/21/22
be happy pay off some debt and keep grinding
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I think I know who this is based on some of the details. Don...
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Thanks man. You probably know who this is. My life is so shi...
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Even if it’s not great, getting that into a monthly pa...
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180. Thank you man you’ve always been a great friend t...
Insanely creepy ebony site gaming laptop
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Right back at you FRIEND. It is very easy to feel inadequate...
Infuriating charismatic stain travel guidebook
  09/21/22
Hell yeah man!
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GTTTR is a kind woman.
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You should be able to get a new Mazda CX9 for around $40k. H...
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This depends entirely on your relationship with your wife. ...
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Not a failure. This is what life is for most people. Keep ...
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this
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Great thanks man
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My wife was worth millions when we met whereas I was broke, ...
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she saw your bowlcut and knew you were the one
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  09/21/22
You are 180, though. Obviously she knew that.
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  09/21/22
She will blow it all on clothes, purses, shoes, massages, an...
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Tell her this deserves a celebration. Maybe she should take ...
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That's how it's supposed to work. You should really feel gui...
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Pay off all your high interest debt first - either with the ...
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AUSLANDER tp. First day.
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The inheritance is a gift from god and you should be happy. ...
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Post the Reddit link pls
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There is something very reddity about OP's writing style.
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agree that this is what life is like for most people, grindi...
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Thanks man. We were close to selling her wedding ring for. D...
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OP = Johnsmeyer
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  09/22/22
This is perhaps a moment to course correct. From what you&rs...
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  09/22/22
unexpected windfalls are 180. just be happy for it.
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Date: September 21st, 2022 11:23 AM
Author: Insanely creepy ebony site gaming laptop

Long story short we both had secure good $85k jobs. We were about to have our first baby and my mom was gonna watch the baby when we worked. Neither of us are from wealthy families. Two weeks before the baby was born my mom died suddenly.

We had to make a decision and it was for my wife to quit her job and stay home with the baby bc day care was so expensive. But we had to make it work on 85k. We have a mortgage, car and now about to have our third baby.

Needless to say we struggled financially but made it work. I got a side gig doing something pretty cool and with raises and my side gig I’m about $130k. Paying off some credit card debt so not really feeling it totally yet.

I was embarrassed at the car dealer the other day. Saw a bigger SUV used that we love that would fit three car seats. When he came back with the monthly payment we just couldn’t do it. My wife and I were disappointed mostly bc that was the cheapest realistic car and we just couldn’t do it.

We are about a $1k mistake from being fucked. I worked it out with a credit union to get a car loan for like 2% and could now afford this car. I texted my wife all happy.

Today she found out her 89 year old grandpa who died in August left us $50k. Super shock.

I’m happy in a way but feel like a super failure that I couldn’t get out of this hole in my own. Is it stupid to feel this way? Gives us a ton of breathing room since I paid my debts down to like $2k minus mortgage.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5196517&forum_id=2#45206506)



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Date: September 21st, 2022 12:55 PM
Author: Autistic sapphire center

I will ask the obvious question. How the fuck did you get a 2% used car loan?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5196517&forum_id=2#45207005)



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Date: September 21st, 2022 11:24 AM
Author: vermilion feces

Yes, it is stupid to feel this way.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5196517&forum_id=2#45206512)



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Date: September 21st, 2022 11:30 AM
Author: Sick multi-colored business firm

100%

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Date: September 21st, 2022 7:19 PM
Author: diverse box office immigrant



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Date: September 22nd, 2022 6:35 AM
Author: chest-beating macaca



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Date: September 21st, 2022 11:25 AM
Author: Stimulating dilemma selfie

By 2030 you will own nothing and you will “be happy”

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5196517&forum_id=2#45206515)



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Date: September 21st, 2022 11:25 AM
Author: Disturbing vibrant forum

how is the sex?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5196517&forum_id=2#45206516)



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Date: September 21st, 2022 11:27 AM
Author: Insanely creepy ebony site gaming laptop

180 we experiment a lot

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5196517&forum_id=2#45206527)



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Date: September 21st, 2022 11:28 AM
Author: Disturbing vibrant forum

youre good imo

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5196517&forum_id=2#45206531)



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Date: September 21st, 2022 11:59 AM
Author: Odious trailer park philosopher-king

any ass play?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5196517&forum_id=2#45206697)



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Date: September 21st, 2022 11:28 AM
Author: rebellious theater roommate

Sorry about the grandpa. Good job. I have a news flash for you. This is how most people get out of holes.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5196517&forum_id=2#45206534)



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Date: September 21st, 2022 11:28 AM
Author: iridescent boyish hall

Jesus christ don't buy an SUV because you have one kid. That's peak POWERGOY.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5196517&forum_id=2#45206535)



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Date: September 21st, 2022 11:29 AM
Author: Grizzly puppy pisswyrm

He’s got 3

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5196517&forum_id=2#45206542)



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Date: September 21st, 2022 11:33 AM
Author: iridescent boyish hall

I suck at reading comprehension, but still, buy a minivan.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5196517&forum_id=2#45206558)



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Date: September 21st, 2022 11:29 AM
Author: Grizzly puppy pisswyrm

be happy pay off some debt and keep grinding

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5196517&forum_id=2#45206539)



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Date: September 21st, 2022 11:32 AM
Author: Infuriating charismatic stain travel guidebook

I think I know who this is based on some of the details. Don’t be so hard on yourself. You’ve had a lot of rough patches, and as long as your wife is your teammate and you guys are supportive of each other then it’s fine. Just don’t be stupid with the money. Treat yourselves to something, but make sure you sack away a lot of it to give yourselves some long-term breathing room.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5196517&forum_id=2#45206552)



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Date: September 21st, 2022 11:45 AM
Author: Insanely creepy ebony site gaming laptop

Thanks man. You probably know who this is. My life is so shitty I’m trying to finance a $19k pathfinder lol. We aren’t flashy at all so there’s no way i would ever blow it.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5196517&forum_id=2#45206620)



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Date: September 21st, 2022 11:48 AM
Author: Infuriating charismatic stain travel guidebook

Even if it’s not great, getting that into a monthly payment will get you so much breathing room. Once the kids are in school, things will get easier. If the issue wasn’t just living off of one salary, it would be the cost of daycare. At least this way your wife is home with them and she gets to shape them instead of some rando at a daycare. You can’t put a price on that.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5196517&forum_id=2#45206631)



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Date: September 21st, 2022 11:49 AM
Author: Insanely creepy ebony site gaming laptop

180. Thank you man you’ve always been a great friend to me on this board.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5196517&forum_id=2#45206636)



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Date: September 21st, 2022 11:55 AM
Author: Infuriating charismatic stain travel guidebook

Right back at you FRIEND. It is very easy to feel inadequate, especially here. But as long as your family and your relationship are doing well then that’s all that matters. The rest of it is just noise.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5196517&forum_id=2#45206681)



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Date: September 21st, 2022 11:59 AM
Author: Insanely creepy ebony site gaming laptop

Hell yeah man!

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5196517&forum_id=2#45206699)



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Date: September 21st, 2022 12:03 PM
Author: exciting jade love of her life generalized bond

GTTTR is a kind woman.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5196517&forum_id=2#45206713)



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Date: September 21st, 2022 7:21 PM
Author: diverse box office immigrant



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5196517&forum_id=2#45208974)



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Date: September 21st, 2022 7:20 PM
Author: diverse box office immigrant



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Date: September 21st, 2022 11:33 AM
Author: Heady Disrespectful Stead

You should be able to get a new Mazda CX9 for around $40k. Hyundai Palisade should be around the same price and has a captain seat config.

$50k is not much as far as inheritance goes. Pay down debt or invest it into VTI/401k equivalent. Hold off on the new car unless you really need it.

If you're relatively young and not in a HCOL city, you're probably going to make it.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5196517&forum_id=2#45206555)



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Date: September 21st, 2022 11:36 AM
Author: primrose supple keepsake machete

This depends entirely on your relationship with your wife.

If she is truly a great friend to you, then this is a great blessing. Enjoy it together.

If there are already tensions and she tries to make you feel insecure, this could be fatal.

If the latter, it is also a blessing though a hard one. It has shone a light on a relationship that is fundamentally bad. Do not neglect the chance to evaluate this now. Remaining with a woman who will immiserate you when given the chance is just counting days until that chance arrives.



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5196517&forum_id=2#45206572)



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Date: September 21st, 2022 11:41 AM
Author: Ultramarine misanthropic library



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Date: September 21st, 2022 11:40 AM
Author: hateful titillating senate private investor

Not a failure. This is what life is for most people. Keep grinding.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5196517&forum_id=2#45206591)



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Date: September 21st, 2022 11:43 AM
Author: bistre big piazza

this

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5196517&forum_id=2#45206604)



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Date: September 21st, 2022 11:45 AM
Author: Insanely creepy ebony site gaming laptop

Great thanks man

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5196517&forum_id=2#45206622)



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Date: September 21st, 2022 11:49 AM
Author: At-the-ready Party Of The First Part Tanning Salon

My wife was worth millions when we met whereas I was broke, unemployed and had 0 long-term job prospects. Still have no idea what she was thinking.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5196517&forum_id=2#45206635)



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Date: September 21st, 2022 12:00 PM
Author: Insanely creepy ebony site gaming laptop

Wow you must be super handsome

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5196517&forum_id=2#45206701)



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Date: September 21st, 2022 12:02 PM
Author: Stimulating dilemma selfie

she saw your bowlcut and knew you were the one

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5196517&forum_id=2#45206711)



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Date: September 21st, 2022 7:22 PM
Author: diverse box office immigrant

You are 180, though. Obviously she knew that.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5196517&forum_id=2#45208980)



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Date: September 21st, 2022 12:03 PM
Author: Flatulent Chocolate Whorehouse Corn Cake

She will blow it all on clothes, purses, shoes, massages, and spray tanning since it is HER money. Don't count your chickens before they hatch.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5196517&forum_id=2#45206717)



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Date: September 21st, 2022 12:35 PM
Author: Ruby galvanic sound barrier

cr

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Date: September 21st, 2022 12:06 PM
Author: olive lettuce black woman

Tell her this deserves a celebration. Maybe she should take her bull to Outback or something

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5196517&forum_id=2#45206732)



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Date: September 21st, 2022 12:20 PM
Author: wonderful stock car

That's how it's supposed to work. You should really feel guilty about perpetuating white supremacy.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5196517&forum_id=2#45206782)



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Date: September 21st, 2022 12:46 PM
Author: exhilarant crimson principal's office

Pay off all your high interest debt first - either with the inheritance or not - then buy I Bonds with the inheritance. If you have three kids plus your wife you can buy 50k at a time, which is like another 4k a year that's tax advantaged.

You can redeem them after like a year or so, so if your wife needs to splurge you can do that.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5196517&forum_id=2#45206963)



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Date: September 21st, 2022 12:48 PM
Author: dashing mediation gas station

AUSLANDER tp. First day.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5196517&forum_id=2#45206970)



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Date: September 21st, 2022 12:49 PM
Author: Elite snowy wrinkle degenerate

The inheritance is a gift from god and you should be happy. Put it to good use.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5196517&forum_id=2#45206974)



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Date: September 21st, 2022 1:38 PM
Author: Ultramarine misanthropic library



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Date: September 21st, 2022 1:25 PM
Author: maroon bull headed hunting ground cuckold

Post the Reddit link pls

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5196517&forum_id=2#45207149)



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Date: September 21st, 2022 1:37 PM
Author: Lime lay pozpig

There is something very reddity about OP's writing style.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5196517&forum_id=2#45207193)



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Date: September 21st, 2022 5:41 PM
Author: cerebral translucent spot

agree that this is what life is like for most people, grinding. no reason to feel bad about a sudden windfall. if you had to keep grinding away with no cushion, you probably would've figured out a way to make that work too

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5196517&forum_id=2#45208616)



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Date: September 21st, 2022 7:23 PM
Author: diverse box office immigrant



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Date: September 21st, 2022 8:24 PM
Author: Insanely creepy ebony site gaming laptop

Thanks man. We were close to selling her wedding ring for. Down payment in the car.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5196517&forum_id=2#45209243)



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Date: September 22nd, 2022 6:07 AM
Author: tan menage pervert

OP = Johnsmeyer

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5196517&forum_id=2#45211355)



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Date: September 22nd, 2022 6:24 AM
Author: ruddy sinister property

This is perhaps a moment to course correct. From what you’ve described, your spending is excessive relative to your income. Credit card debt and making car purchases based on monthly payments are red flags.

Consider whether you have fallen into the trap of thing-buying. Like over consumption of alcohol or food, thing-buying is an easy habit to get into that provides transitory happiness but can harm you substantially in the long run.

A strong financial foundation is a worthy goal that you should consider. The absence of stress that comes from having significant liquidity and investments is amazing. To achieve this in the long term, you need to have a reasonably high savings rate, which means less thing-buying.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5196517&forum_id=2#45211375)



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Date: September 22nd, 2022 9:49 AM
Author: Pearly Lascivious Trust Fund Turdskin

unexpected windfalls are 180. just be happy for it.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5196517&forum_id=2#45211735)