Date: March 16th, 2023 5:43 PM Author: wonderful drab church circlehead
She's a nurse and a doula (someone who helps women deliver babies). We matched on Hinge. A few weeks ago, on the day of our first date, she texted me and said she has to cancel because a client's baby delivery was earlier than expected. Ok fine. So we rescheduled for today. Then ,this morning, she texted me and said she was terribly sorry to cancel again because a patient of hers with whom she was close with, passed away. She's processing a lot and doesn't feel as though she can show up to the date as her best self.
Shit happens in life but the odds of both of these things happening on the days of the scheduled dates seems pretty low. Am I being too cynical?
Date: March 17th, 2023 5:26 AM Author: effete confused striped hyena
Why not just respond: “Wow sorry to hear that. My deepest condolences. Happy to give you the space you need and if you eventually want to reschedule reach out. Until then, I hope you feel better soon.”
Than the ball’s in her court. You go about your life and if she’s really interested she can make a move instead of your wringing your hands about it.
If your point is he should just ghost her I’m totally with you there. But I’m getting the vibe from OP that he’s unusually wrapped up in this and so I assume he intends to respond back with something. Of the non-ghosting options I think it’s better to make her reach out (or otherwise you move on) than continue to try to set something up like a cuck.
Date: March 17th, 2023 5:38 AM Author: Bronze yarmulke hall
The clear answer here is to at least pretend to buy her excuse, not mind then suggest other plans and jam the throttle through the stops and push hard for nudes. If she sends you naked pictures she will prob come to the new date you set and fuck you, if no pics forget her. Soo CR 👍🏻.
Date: March 17th, 2023 8:34 AM Author: stubborn vigorous lay
Most women don’t like online dating and just use it for validation, they don’t actually want to meet someone that way. You should just start talking to women IRL. Try to meet someone at church or something.
Date: March 17th, 2023 5:15 PM Author: stubborn vigorous lay
But regardless that’s not persuasive for a number of reasons. First, this depends on geographic area. Second, I highly doubt that’s true for all couples across all generations, and even for younger generations I suspect it is questionable. And are you referring to couples who are together for a long period of time, married, etc? Third, I don’t believe the majority of current marriages meet on apps. Fourth, even if it is common, it doesn’t change the fact that women don’t really like it instinctively and would prefer to meet in person. And l you want to do what these normal NPCs do anyway. Pretty much all desirable men know that they have to date down on apps most of the time, though this depends on region.
Date: March 17th, 2023 8:38 AM Author: startled translucent volcanic crater
i dated a midwife for a year and this shit happened frequently, so i buy the excuse.
you can tell if an excuse is real by how enthusiastic they are to set up another date. if she is apologetic and suggesting new ideas, the excuse is real. if she's just like "sorry, i have to cancel." and doesn't say anything after, she is just trying to let you down easy.
Date: March 17th, 2023 9:28 PM Author: wonderful drab church circlehead
OP here. This is what she wrote in her text.
"Hey XXX, I am so sorry to do this for a second time but one of my patients with whom I'm very close is passing away. I am processing a lot and don't feel as thought I can show up as my best self for a date tonight."
My response: "Sorry to hear that! Let me know if you want to to reschedule and for what date. Thanks."
No response from her. This was sent yesterday at around noon.