but as they get shacked up, their wives despise me and they're afraid to have to be public with their wives of their friendship with me.

one good friend only hangs out with me when his wife is out of town. he's always excited to hang out with me tho, so it's not like he doesnt like me. he calls me on the way home from work to say hi, but never calls when his wife is around.

is this common?

(https://autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3610788&forum_id=2#33277051)

Yes, its very common.

(https://autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3610788&forum_id=2#33277055)

but is it common that there are "good friends" nad "bad friends" that girls are and arent okay with?

(https://autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3610788&forum_id=2#33277081)

this is all in the talmud. but she was horrified.

(https://autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3610788&forum_id=2#33279471)

the high priest, the night before the yom kippur sacrifice, is supposed to have 2 guys watch him all night to keep him up and play music for him and make sure he doesnt begin to nod off.

(https://autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3610788&forum_id=2#33282187)

(https://autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3610788&forum_id=2#33277107)

(https://autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3610788&forum_id=2#33277173)

a few of my gfs friends do though

(https://autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3610788&forum_id=2#33279422)

I will say that for every 1 that hates me, there are 2 that give me a look of "i'd consider cheating."

(https://autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3610788&forum_id=2#33279454)

It's not that the SO despises me. It's that my friend does not want the SO to know I exist in the first place.

(https://autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3610788&forum_id=2#33279426)

one close friend -- who married his wife after 2 months -- totally minimizes the extent of our friendship.

(https://autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3610788&forum_id=2#33279447)

When my mom had me, she tells me that she made sure she nurtured friendships with all of her friends - her married mom friends would meet up for walks so they could talk to adults about something other than playdates and pooping, she would talk to her single girlfriends about travel and careers and books, she'd make sure to connect with friends outside her gender and age cohort, and so on.

A corollary to this is to pick a spouse who doesn't micromanage your social life. I would never tell my BF to stop hanging out with someone unless (1) it was a toxic friendship that was hurting him, or (2) if that person repeatedly exposed him to unhealthy behaviors.

(https://autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3610788&forum_id=2#33279732)

Sometimes the spouse shares those interests, too, but it's not at all unusual for me to see the husband socializing with some of his friends on one occasion, the wife doing the same on another, and both of them pursuing personal interests unrelated to marriage, kids, or work.

What the hell is weird/autistic/fucked up about that?

(https://autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3610788&forum_id=2#33282385)

Many, many women leveraged their pussies, their kids and their marriages into electoral control of their husbands during the election and some lone-gunner, gtow, psycho-poaster, Trump supporter palling around with their hubby is fucking mortal threat to them.

(https://autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3610788&forum_id=2#33279819)

He's not allowed to see me anymore

(https://autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3610788&forum_id=2#33282217)