Of course I was very disappointed and maybe a little heartbroken but agreed on the condition that I could also go outside the marriage. She agreed, probably thinking the chances of me finding someone was slim to none.

Well, I did. And now my wife is pissed.

Sitting at a neighborhood bar and somewhat depressed while my wife was out on one of her hookups, the female bartender (Ariel) noticed my ring and started asking questions: Why was I there, by myself, and not with my wife? It all came out. The size of my penis, how I couldn’t satisfy my wife, and this is why she wasn’t with me that night as she was out with a bigger guy, and, although I was free to have my own hookups, I wasn’t having much luck. She said that was interesting and let me know that due to a birth defect, if you can call it that, her vaginal opening was partially closed and she needed to have surgery as a young teen to “open it up” so she could use tampons but the scar tissue makes it painful to have sex with a penis of a normal-sized girth. She has a wife and is also in an open marriage. She offered to have sex with me if I was as small as I said I was. I agreed. Long story short it went great so on my wife’s nights out, I have been meeting her.

My wife at first seemed happy for me but it now sounds like the guys she is meeting aren’t living up to what she expects, and I think she is a little jealous of my success. Last night, after we came home—she was with another (disappointing?) hookup and I was with Ariel—she said she wanted me to stop seeing her and find somebody else. She wouldn’t give me a reason why.

Am I being unfair not wanting to break it off with Ariel? And do you agree that I am getting screwed by what my wife now wants?

(https://autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5922552&forum_id=2#50258693)