Date: February 25th, 2005 5:15 PM Author: Aromatic gaming laptop indian lodge
well, kind of. We were dating and she basically told me that she really liked me a lot, but she would not get serious with anybody right now. I had tried to date other people, but as long as we were dating it didn't work out so well because I always just wished I was with Susie. So I told her we should stop dating and just be friends. So then she proceeds to start exclusively dating another guy and gets semi-serious. Then all of the sudden she starts calling me at all times of the day, 3 AM or 8AM or 2 in the afternoon. Then one night she got drunk and needed me to pick her up. Logistically it was impossible for me to take her back to her apt, so she just stayed at mine. I made her sober up before she went to bed. So I go to put her in my bed and I was going to sleep on the couch. However, she just starts taking off all her clothes and tells me she wants me to hold her. So I do, the whole night. I didn't sleep at all, I jsut stared at her the whole night. She told me the next morning how wonderful it felt to wake up in my arms. I didn't know what was going to happen, I wasn't really thinking about it. Then about two days later she invited me to go hang out with her, except she was in a group of people that included the guy she had been dating. It was then when I realized what I had to do.
well, kind of. We were dating and she basically told me that she really liked me a lot, but she would not get serious with anybody right now. I had tried to date other people, but as long as we were dating it didn't work out so well because I always just wished I was with Susie. So I told her we should stop dating and just be friends. So then she proceeds to start exclusively dating another guy and gets semi-serious. Then all of the sudden she starts calling me at all times of the day, 3 AM or 8AM or 2 in the afternoon. Then one night she got drunk and needed me to pick her up. Logistically it was impossible for me to take her back to her apt, so she just stayed at mine. I made her sober up before she went to bed. So I go to put her in my bed and I was going to sleep on the couch. However, she just starts taking off all her clothes and tells me she wants me to hold her. So I do, the whole night. I didn't sleep at all, I jsut stared at her the whole night. She told me the next morning how wonderful it felt to wake up in my arms. I didn't know what was going to happen, I wasn't really thinking about it. Then about two days later she invited me to go hang out with her, except she was in a group of people that included the guy she had been dating. It was then when I realized what I had to do.
Date: February 25th, 2005 5:00 PM Author: cocky aqua house
Probably around 34-35. Since I'd like to have kids, at that point I think my biological clock would take over and I'd start making bad relationship decisions.
Ideally I'd like to get married in a couple years (am 27 now).
Date: February 25th, 2005 5:45 PM Author: chocolate son of senegal sanctuary
Let me guess - she puts up with it for a while, then get's mad and threatens to go find (i.e. fuck) another guy, you promise to marry her which placates her, she puts up with it for a little while...
Date: February 25th, 2005 8:40 PM Author: Stimulating bat-shit-crazy box office water buffalo
right before i get noticeably balding. If i wait till afterwards, the quality of women i have to select from will decline precipitiously. If I marry beforehand, it will probably be too soon.
Date: February 25th, 2005 9:30 PM Author: Underhanded spot selfie
Depends. If it's to my ex-boyfriend (we broke up only because of distance and we're still extremely close emotionally), then within 5 years (I'm 24). But if it's to someone I haven't met yet, I can't see myself getting married until my early-mid 30s.
I'm not so concerned about kids/fertility. I'd rather get married much older to the *right* person and not have kids, than get married younger so I can have kids and be a young/energetic parent.
Date: February 25th, 2005 11:16 PM Author: bespoke field
I'd never feel odd about not getting married, and I don't know if I want to. But assuming I did do it, maybe 40-45? To as young a chick as permissible by law.
Date: February 26th, 2005 10:29 AM Author: Underhanded spot selfie
Men get that kind of pressure? I thought it was not even looked askance upon for guys to stay bachelors well into their 30s (b/c people say things like, "he's focusing on his career", or "he's waiting to get his finances in order").
I've never got "marriage pressure" from my family; a lot of my aunts are doctors who married late and had daughters that married late (mid-30s).
Date: February 26th, 2005 10:41 AM Author: Apoplectic opaque resort
I think it's a regional thing. My mom's side of the family is originally from Texas (and I really only get it from that side). And it's not really intense or anything so far, just carefully targeted teasing; I'm also sure it's not as intense as my sister will experience if she remains unmarried.
Date: February 26th, 2005 10:50 AM Author: Underhanded spot selfie
So, if you're still a bachelor at 35, would people think you're gay?
But you are right, it could be a regional thing. My family is from the Northeast, Chicago, and San Diego. If I didn't get married until my mid-30s, people would just attribute it to me focusing on career for a good part of my life, and think I was doing the mature thing by waiting until later in life to marry. If anything, my family is more into having me wait until I was older to get married: I would raise much more eyebrows if I got married in my mid-20s than if I got married in my mid-30s.
Date: February 26th, 2005 10:58 AM Author: Underhanded spot selfie
Wow...my parents often talk about how they look forward to being grandparents, but they never pressure me to give them grandkids. If anything, they say, "if your career is too busy for you to devote enough time to raising your kids, we'd love to take them off your hands."
Very tempting, although I don't know how I'd feel about a pair of senior citizens that could well be cracking 70 by the time I procreate raising children.