Date: March 27th, 2018 1:48 PM Author: Cracking Station
she had a big professional exam the next morning, and wanted to get to bed at 9:00 p.m. I told her I had some work to finish up and will be in bed by 10:00 p.m. I lost track of time and went to bed at 11:00 p.m., went to the bathroom for a bit which woke her up. She got pissed, started punching my arm while cursing me out, and then spent the next half hour cursing at me and repeated punching or slapping my face, with full force.
She's not that strong so there's not that damage, but there is some bruising around the corner of my eye this morning.
this is not the first time she's punched me, but this is by far the most violent. In the past it's been a slap on the face or a couple of punches or kicks, for similar infractions.
but obviously this time it's not just about coming to bed late - last week she was checking my phone and saw that I was talking to a girl I had met through work, and she was going through a tough relationship and really liked me, and texted me some pretty riske pictures. I then invited her to meet up with me when I go to an out of town work trip.
Obviously we got into a huge fight about that last week, but she said she wanted to give me another chance, which basically consists of me not arguing or talking back to her about anything, ever, and not letting my mother, whom she hates, ever see our infant daughter.
If we didn't have a kid, I'd definitely walk out, but I decided to stick it out b/c I don't want my daughter to be in a broken home.
But the recent bout of violence really shook me and I'm not sure if I should stick around or not. I don't really have anyone to talk to about this, since it's pretty embarrassing.
Date: March 27th, 2018 1:53 PM Author: Cracking Station
i already do the majority of the house work. also, she's an xo meme when it comes to money. i made almost 400k last year and she complains constantly about me not making any money while working too many hours, and how it's not enough to survive in a big city.
Date: March 27th, 2018 1:55 PM Author: ruddy thriller piazza
Badmarriage Pumo may say otherwise, but brother, you just need to gtfo. Take the kid and go to your parents house and file for divorce. If you have the nuts, go file a police report against your wife for domestic abuse while your eye is still black, the state will fuck her to the wall with all of the new #metoo domestic violence laws that are being passed.
Whats worse: your kid's parents not being together, or your girl learning how to treat a husband by watching her mother. Really, think about that.
Date: March 27th, 2018 2:03 PM Author: Cracking Station
my eye isn't that black, just a very small area of purple on the corner. i went to work this morning and nobody noticed anything.
i'm thinking about texting my mom with a picture just to document this, but frankly i don't want to worry her either.
i really don't know about the kid, most of the time the wife and i are cordial, even though we have a dead bedroom.
but in the last few days i noticed that the daughter is looking a bit more sad b/c she's probably picking up on the hostility, and it's breaking my heart.
Date: March 27th, 2018 2:59 PM Author: Azure location french chef
Bro, of course he needs to GTFO right away. LOL at staying for the kid like this crazy bitch doesn't beat the shit out of that child when he's not around working all those long hours. He should leave, take kid to parents and file restraining order asap. PS this is completely obvious flame.
Date: March 27th, 2018 1:53 PM Author: Umber Blathering Hominid
You sound like an asshole. If my wife did that before a big professional exam, I’d be furious. She shouldn’t be punching you in the face, obviously, but you do kinda deserve it.
That said, the other stuff you said about her seems worse than this.
Date: March 27th, 2018 2:00 PM Author: Cracking Station
obviously i was totally in the wrong about the other girl, so i feel like i kind of deserved this beat down. i just stood there and took it without even attempting to defend myself.
right now i'm leaning towards let this one be a freebie and call it even for my indiscretion, but i seriously don't understand how my wife could act so violently in that situation, it's like she was momentarily psychotic, just lacked any capacity for empathy, humanity.
Date: March 27th, 2018 2:05 PM Author: Cracking Station
that's what i don't get - i would be pissed and possibly leave her (though maybe i would stay together b/c of the kid), but i wouldn't beat the crap out of her and curse her out like that days after.
Date: March 27th, 2018 2:07 PM Author: Mustard crawly karate
Well she apparently would. Who knows why the difference in response. Anyways if that's a week ago she is definitely still pissed off about it. And in all likelihood that's what this is about.
Date: March 27th, 2018 2:17 PM Author: lurid anal narrative
The why in the difference of response is that we don’t teach girls since birth that hitting the opposite sex is WRONG, BAD, AND THE EQUIVALENT OF OJ SIMPSON, but we do for boys, in TTT western world.
Date: March 27th, 2018 2:19 PM Author: Mustard crawly karate
We don't emphasize women not raping and hitting because it's far less threatening. But yes that is likely why women probably have more irl experience slapping people etc. No one should rape or hit anyone of course.
He could have easily restrained his wife (unless he's dating some megabutch or he's some minitwink). But he didnt because he felt like he deserved it. Anyways he should restrain her next time. Maybe he didnt this time because he was also too surprised. If she escalates to using weapons then he needs to gtfo obviously.
You need to hit her in the throat with two fingers such that she can't breathe but it leaves no marks, or similar, if she does that again. Explain to her then that violence is not appropriate. And stop doing the fucking housework, and passive-aggressively messing with other chicks then masochistically taking punishment.
At minimum, you need to talk with her and make clear violence like that will not be tolerated. You are in an escalating abuse situation, because she is looking for you to take charge, and you are pussying about.
Date: March 27th, 2018 2:38 PM Author: tan embarrassed to the bone international law enforcement agency pit
He needs to punch her in the sternum at exactly the right angle such that her lungs are paralyzed. Then be like "I've temporarily disabled your breathing. In the absence of oxygen, the average human body can survive for an average of one minute before passing out. Brain damage, and then death soon follow. *looks at watch* .You've been out of breath for 37 seconds now. Are you ever going to hit me again? No? Good. *punches sternum again, releasing lung paralysis.* Better? I'm glad we understand each other."
Date: March 27th, 2018 2:06 PM Author: ruddy thriller piazza
Pumo, I have a miserable marriage with a frigid Wife who is a fucking psychopath. I stay up approx. 4 nights a week to do night work for our baby because my Wife, who is on maternity leave, doesn't want to be tired for Yoga. She hasn't worked in 2018 yet has a housekeeper come to clean. For all practical purposes my Wife does nothing with our 3 years old. She spends more than she makes, does very little around the house, and calls me at least every other day in a crying panic about something trivial like she can't find the remote control and she wants me to leave work to come home to find it. I've had sex 3 times in the last 12 months. Yet, I stay.
However, if she hit me - especially if it left a bruise - I'd be doing the Uptown Funk dance all the way to the police station to go file my DV charges and get my custody order. Then I would literally ride a rainbow while singing Walking on Sunshine to my divorce attorney's office.
Date: March 27th, 2018 3:11 PM Author: Azure location french chef
Cheating on your wife right after she had a baby is the lowest of the low. Like you have to be a pretty shitty person with a broken soul that you can twist your head that far around only weeks after what should have been one of the greatest moments of your life together. I would go so far as saying that anyone capable of cheating on their wife with a less than 6 month old is an irredeemably shitty person, even if baby is collicky, wife is super PPD, etc. At that moment, you shouldn't have the space in your brain to worry about some dumb bitch at work and her bad relationship.
That said, about the only instance where that kind of thing would be excusable is if you've essentially got battered spouse syndrome happening and the staying spouse is effectively excused from homicidal rage. And that's why there is real brilliance in this flame, right down to the law school hypo issue spotter design of the fact pattern.
Date: March 27th, 2018 2:19 PM Author: Cracking Station
we actually tried fucking the day after she found the texts, and i said part of the issue is b/c we don't have sex anymore.
it resulted in me not getting it up at first, then when it's working, her being in too much pain to continue.
also, she says she always gets a painful UTI everytime we have sex, which is why she always dreads it, and I said I can shower and wear a condom, but google says that doesn't always work.
Date: March 27th, 2018 2:32 PM Author: ruddy thriller piazza
The UTI thing is not uncommon, if she goes to her lady doctor they can prescribe something that will prevent her from getting UTIs after sex. I had a LTR that had this same issue and the medication cleared it right up.
As for your dick, hell, get some cialis and go hammering around with your iron rebar dick.
As for your marriage, shit brother, you don't seem to have any understanding of how deep you've sunk.