I do not think this is as common as you seem to think. Personally, I will go out of my way to avoid a guy I find attractive if he is in a relationship.
I've actually seen this happen in nearly every case where the guy 'cheated'. I accept that I have some skeezy female friends and deer-in-the-headlights male friends, though, and my experience may not be representative of shit.
Date: February 27th, 2005 6:39 PM Author: startled antidepressant drug
um, no. i admit there are some girls who do this, but still, guys should resist. they want their gf to. And we all know that guys slobber all over girls all the time so she'd be equally tempted.
Date: February 27th, 2005 8:24 PM Author: Big chad theatre
Yeah, but guys do it because they can't keep it in their pants. It's sort of childish and easy to resist. Women do it because they're vindictive and get pleasure from the pain of others. They play mind games. Big difference.
Date: February 27th, 2005 4:29 PM Author: garnet soggy address
holding hands, suggestive dancing.
basically any situation that suggests either a sexual or intimate situtation with a person not your boyfriend. it happens eventually and how you deal with that is more important.
Date: February 27th, 2005 6:43 PM Author: startled antidepressant drug
well if you find yourself holding hands and it makes you realize you need to deal with the situation there has been no cheating, but repeatedly doing it is a problem.
Date: February 27th, 2005 6:46 PM Author: garnet soggy address
yes - you find youself in an innapropriate situation - and you make the decision (hopefully) to not do anything. Its something you learn from, but I wouldn't consider it cheating or a deal breaker.
at some point along any LONG relationship you are going to meet someone else who is exciting, attractive and most of all different. there are lots of situations, sometimes involving booze - that you will find youself holding hands with someone you shouldn't or dancing a little too close. that behavior in itself is a learning experience - but it doesn't make you a shit who should never propose to your girlfriend.
Date: February 27th, 2005 9:28 PM Author: startled antidepressant drug
yeah, basically i meant holding hands is uncool, but not cheating if it is a one time incident. however, if you repeatedly find yourself flirting/dancing or holding hands with the same chick or with any chick whenever you feel like it, it is cheating imo.
Myself, and at least 3 or 4 of my male friends (i don't really have many others that have been in relationships that long; it's a bit unusual for one's early 20's).
There are two (recent) cases I am aware of which involved cheating. One was a bit of 'relationship overlap' where a new girl aggressively pursued a friend of mine who was stuck in a long-distance relationship. The second involved the girl cheating on the guy, multiple times. They're still dating, unfortunately.
Date: February 27th, 2005 6:46 PM Author: startled antidepressant drug
i commend alll men on this thread who have never cheated. unfortunately, you are all currently in relationships, and this seems to be an annoying part of it, all thhe goood guys are taken!
Date: February 27th, 2005 6:49 PM Author: garnet soggy address
I have never slept with another girl when I had a girlfriend, however I have danced with other girls at parties, and walked hand in hand with them. I dont think that behavior is appropriate, and I avoid those situations, but I dont think doing that once made me a bad boyfriend.