Date: June 12th, 2022 11:59 PM Author: wine aromatic jap
Why would she ghost you after three years? That's really fucked up. You owe them an actual break up at a wayyyyy earlier mark than that, but 3 years jfc
Date: June 13th, 2022 12:04 AM Author: mildly autistic garrison
i have come to the conclusion that she decided she was a lesbian and didn't want to tell me. i have no proof, but i drove myself crazy thinking about it for the past year and that seems to be the most likely reason based on all the available evidence. i hope i'll get an answer one day.
Date: June 13th, 2022 12:14 AM Author: mildly autistic garrison
she blocked my number without telling me and when i tried to call her it went straight to voicemail. later that day she sent me this exact message and then immediately blocked my number again
"I don't mean to be rude, and please take this kindly, but it's best we not communicate any more. I wish you all the best."
Date: June 13th, 2022 9:40 AM Author: Accurate at predicting vs Measures of probability (gunneratttt)
dude that is psychopathic beyond even xo mental illness.
i'm sure it hurts like hell and must be maddening to just not know. but imagine if you have wifed and impregnated such a heartless person. silver linings. you definitely dodged a bullet. someone that would ghost a 3 year relationship is incomprehensibly callous.
Date: June 13th, 2022 12:03 AM Author: mahogany lodge
Something similar happened to me. I moved to FL for a girl I was dating in law school (she’s an engineer & was an FSU undergrad at the time). We dated throughout grad school, and I moved down to FL and dropped out of my PhD program to be with her. After four years, she broke up with me via text, on my 30th birthday. I spent my 30th by myself at Capital Grille in Orlando (at the mall). It was originally dinner for two, but I told them it’ll just be 1. They asked if I still wanted a table & I said yes. It was awesome, but awful. Life gets better, man.
Date: June 13th, 2022 12:14 AM Author: mahogany lodge
What? We met on OkCupid in 2010. I used to sneak through her window to her apartment because I had also matched with, and talked with, her roommate and we didn’t want it to be awkward.
Date: June 13th, 2022 12:21 AM Author: mahogany lodge
LJL that’s not true. I used to do coding for law school numbers in 2007ish, which was GTO’s site. We hadn’t spoken in YEARS, then he outed me based on benzo’s lies.
Date: June 13th, 2022 12:19 AM Author: mahogany lodge
No. He used to come into the xo tinychat under multiple names and tried to get info on tons of poasters. Sharklasers and I had a long conversation about this once on gchat.
Date: June 13th, 2022 12:28 AM Author: mahogany lodge
She started dating someone else. It was devastating. I luckily recovered, and a couple months later got into another 4-year relationship. That one ended even worse.
Date: June 13th, 2022 12:41 AM Author: stirring corn cake toilet seat
Do you remember how many times I told you to dump her? I saw this shit from a mile away. Years later, you're harassing me on behalf of a woman who literally ate my ass. It's time to learn the way of the world, buddy.
Date: June 13th, 2022 12:52 AM Author: mahogany lodge
What? I’ve met the box IRL with my gf and we had an awesome time. She’s really cool; it was weird because I hadn’t seen Nutella, Kenny, CSLG, or his wife in roughly five years. I haven’t seen chandler in like 3 or 4 years. Sorry that you’re jealous of CSLG’s generosity; he’s great and I can’t wait to hang out with him this fall at CAALA.
There's an old country song cliche, "no one wants to know anyone lonely like me". You're not going to find a real next relationship until you get over mike, man, even if that means spending more time alone and focusing on other things.
Date: June 12th, 2022 11:39 PM Author: sick telephone nowag
I’m not actively seeking a new relationship but if one happens, cool.
I do everything as if I don’t miss him at all. I have a pretty positive outlook on life in general right now and am feeling myself beginning to flourish in a lot of ways but he’s always in the back of my mind and when I let those thoughts creep in too much, I get extremely sad about it. I can’t be busy and distracted 100% of the time .
Date: June 13th, 2022 12:12 AM Author: mahogany lodge
Oh shit! Yeah definitely feel free to give me a call again. You gave me a ton of really good info, and if I can help you out in any way, I would like to.
Date: June 13th, 2022 12:06 AM Author: stirring corn cake toilet seat
Box, you're literally worthless garbage. Your whole schtick for years has been planting a different idea in men's heads via deceit, fraud, and actual ass-eating (that's the real irony ITT).
Date: June 13th, 2022 4:37 AM Author: Tantric space
I'm not Box. I was just chuckling at the fact that you, of all people, blank bumped a poast saying that a person who is still obsessed with their ex years after a breakup has some psychological issues.
Date: June 12th, 2022 11:45 PM Author: sick telephone nowag
I haven’t been totally innocent myself and have no trouble meeting guys. Our connection is deeper than that. I just love him so deeply as a person and there’s so much I feel like should say/do/apologize for/I wish we communicated better. That’s not saying that either of us were perfect to each other. It also just breaks my heart how we dont talk at all anymore.
Strikes me as weird. I'd feel creepy comforting a younger woman about an impossible romantic situation 1-on-1 and assume that's the realm of female friends, even if we were friends.
Date: June 13th, 2022 12:18 AM Author: sick telephone nowag
I never sent pics to Martin while he was in prison. You couldn’t even add attachments to emails in corrlinks or in the other email system they used. I dated Martin’s friend on-and-off from 2017-2019. I’ve hung out with Martin a number of times but have never had any intimate/sexual contact with him. I was already in contact with Martin before my ex (“boner police/MF,” to you) and I started dating. I gushed about my new bf to Martin, who congratulated me on finding “the one.” Here’s what happened when Martin’s friend hit me up during lockdown: https://imgur.com/a/NupEKS4 . I was unexpectedly re-added to some email list of Martin’s months later. Looking back, I shouldn’t have been messaging Martin at all since I knew he was interested in me. I would never cheat on BP or send suggestive pics to other guys while we were dating.
(Addendum: I did used to talk to Martin on his prison phone but didn’t send lewd images and he stopped using cell phones in prison long before I started dating my ex)
And TSINAH and I have talked on the phone but BP was fully aware and would even text TSINAH from my phone and had access to all messages. Wasn’t aware that bothered BP. TSINAH weren’t flirtatious.
A strong sign that a relationship is doomed is either party not proactively mentioning their SO. Often they're trying to flirt and keeping options open, or at least it is reasonable for the other to assume that. Doing things as a couple consistently, and everyone seeing that you're a couple, reinforces the relationship. That guys think you're someone they can flirt with would bother most men. I don't think any of this is that complicated - social reality is important to keeping sane in a relationship.
After a dude asked for nudes. You really don't see why a guy you're dating might be bothered that another guy felt comfortable about doing that at all?
If i'm being overly moralistic or critical feel free to push back, but prima facie i think this would bother most men.
Date: June 13th, 2022 12:43 AM Author: sick telephone nowag
I had zero communication with that guy from August 2019 until he reached out to me again in March 2020. As soon as the convo got below surface level, I immediately mentioned that I had a bf.
Date: June 13th, 2022 12:48 AM Author: sick telephone nowag
Being worried if your girlfriend even talks to other guys at all is a sign of insecurity. I trusted my ex to never cheat on me emotionally or otherwise. I was always baffled by his lack of trust in me.
Platonic guy friends and guy friends that get flirty or even sexual are different. At best I think you're being intentionally naive, certainly psychologically unrealistic regardless.
Date: June 13th, 2022 12:34 AM Author: sick telephone nowag
“A strong sign that a relationship is doomed is either party not proactively mentioning their SO.”
Did you read anything I just posted? I always brought up the fact that I had a bf. I spent every day possible with him. He’s the one who never mentioned me on any social media or anything (not that that matters in itself). A pic of him was the first and only insta post I made since we started dating until the time we broke up.
I shouldn’t be wasting my time whining about it on this board though/crying over spilled milk
Date: June 12th, 2022 11:43 PM Author: MASE (MASE)
I said this in another thread, but if you did in fact have sex before marriage, you are morally obligated to seek out the man you slept with and marry him legally. God views you as married to him forever. Otherwise, you must commit to a life of celibacy.
Date: June 13th, 2022 1:28 AM Author: sick telephone nowag
Just stopping by again to say that writing threads like this and responding to ppl in detail is actually a cathartic way of processing my emotions but also lol @ me feeling like I have to justify myself to any of you strangers.
Yeah that typo killed my point. That's the important part here.
I haven't read Schopenhauer in years and people have rightly called me a self-obsessed fag from time to time. Yet you asking for feedback and admitting no fault at all ITT was still something to behold. You're approaching the platonic form of a fempoaster.
Date: June 13th, 2022 1:39 AM Author: sick telephone nowag
Or maybe you could scroll up to one of my first posts in this thread where I wrote that I have things to apologize for and that neither of us were perfect to each other
“I love using online message boards as my personal diary, but what’s this? People are CHALLENGING ME in the replies??? This simply will not do! I answer to no one!”
Date: June 13th, 2022 9:05 AM Author: Marvelous Grizzly Stage Degenerate
I kinda feel bad for the guys she's seeing, especially if she's this hung up/obsessed over a fling/ex. Not even sure how serious they were or how much BP/MF cared about her.
But at least they get to fuck her, and it sounds like BP/MF didn't. Kinda ironic.
Date: June 13th, 2022 9:27 AM Author: sick telephone nowag
I’ve had more sex with my ex (“BP”) than I’ve had with anyone else in my life. You’re such a creepy pathetic dork. I actually woke up this morning laughing at myself for making this thread. I wish I never met BP and that I never started posting on this hellsite with you people. I’m glad that I’m surrounding myself irl with supportive, happy, well-adjusted people who don’t secretly resent me. I’m honest with any guy I date/hang out with.