Date: November 1st, 2006 10:38 AM Author: flirting twinkling stain den
Why is the guy always 100% responsible?
For example, take this scenario: a woman goes to a party dressed like a slut, gets drunk, then uses the alcohol to act even more slutty. Then she goes home with a guy. Next day, she feels embarassed and cries rape.
Is the guy 100% at fault?
As a corrolary, what is the public policy decision in lowering the standards for a rape trial?
Date: November 1st, 2006 11:18 AM Author: flirting twinkling stain den
Hope this helps.
www.wisegeek.com/what-is-onomatopoeia.htm
Fast Motion Onomatopoeia. Words that convey the sound of speed seem often to begin with the letter s or z. Boing, varoom/vroom, whoosh, swish, swoosh, zap, zing, zip, and zoom are examples.
Date: November 1st, 2006 11:22 AM Author: flirting twinkling stain den
everything2.com/index.pl?node_id=94443
"Zing" is also an onomatopoeia, usually standing for the noise something small (such as a bee or a tennis ball) makes as it whizzes - zings (verb) - past your ear at extremely high speed. Bees, of course, make a high-pitched noise most of the time in any case, so zing - not being far from buzz - is a pretty good term. Alternatively and most appropriately it is used for the noise a projectile (bullet) makes when ricocheting off something metallic. "PYEEEOW!", maybe, in real life, but in a comic book, you're more likely to read "Zing!"
Date: November 1st, 2006 10:41 AM Author: Buck-toothed private investor love of her life
i'm not going to debate the point because it's old and boring.
but i wonder does this really happen? the slutty clothes and the morning-after treachery? much as i can dig most any expression of misogyny, i don't think this M.O. is as common as you imagine.
Date: November 1st, 2006 10:49 AM Author: Sinister Domesticated Gunner
according to the school paper, an administrator at the ug of my ls required all the freshman to attend a play about date rape. she said 25% of all ugs will have been raped by the end of 4 yrs. she did not explain how you could ethically fuck someone you just met at a party. pretty sure the administrator's a lesbo, too, so maybe she's just anti-male penetration.
Date: November 1st, 2006 10:46 AM Author: comical metal bbw
not common but it does happen. example: campus womens center convinces someone they've been raped. this absolutely does happen. look at those famous 1 in 4 rape studies and soemthing like 75% dont believe themsleves that they were raped.
Date: November 1st, 2006 10:49 AM Author: Buck-toothed private investor love of her life
yeah, i have my doubts about those statistics for the same sorts for reasons. but that's not quite the step (1) get skanked out, step (2) get slutfucked, step (3) cry rape that the OP is describing
Date: November 1st, 2006 10:51 AM Author: comical metal bbw
yeah, im just guessing (3) would be the most disputed and i know for a fact this happens *sometimes* and can have serious consequences despite the fact it's bs. the case at duke im thinking of didnt end until the female admitted she didnt think what happened was rape and that the womens center pushed her to press charges anyway, blah blah blah.
Date: November 1st, 2006 11:03 AM Author: anal roast beef theatre
I can't believe this is people's reaction to rape. As many "fake" rapes as their are (I'm guessing very very few) there are so many more real rapes that happen on college campuses, and I imagine that (*edit) the vast majority of these go un-reported. Hardly any legitimate rapists in college even get taken to court. Why is it that the primary reaction to rape is bitching about the tiny percentage that may not be real rather than outrage that something like this is going on in our community?
Date: November 1st, 2006 11:07 AM Author: comical metal bbw
this reaction is based on the fact that a majority of women themselves dont believe the definitions espoused by feminists. legitimate people can think date rape is "fake" rape, women included.
Date: November 1st, 2006 11:16 AM Author: anal roast beef theatre
Obviously if a woman is just drunk then it isn't rape, this happens all the time and it's not unethical. But if a woman is like passed out drunk, can't say her own name or sit up then sorry, that should constitute rape. Jesus, I mean, if a girl is super drunk, how hard is it to just say "are you okay with this" before you sleep with her? Is that such a huge inconvenience? People act as if this is a huge problem and innocent guys are getting accused all the time of raping these horrible vindictive sluts.... it's unbelievably misogynistic
Date: November 1st, 2006 11:22 AM Author: anal roast beef theatre
Looking for data on the number of unreported rapes? Or how many rapes are 'real'? The only groups that impute that (mostly feminist groups) have a clear ideological bias and use already unreliable survey data. I am speaking anecdotally i.e. considering the number of women in college I knew who were legitimately raped (non-zero) and the number of guys I knew who got in trouble because someone cried rape (zero).
Date: November 1st, 2006 11:38 AM Author: anal roast beef theatre
Uhh, why don't you read the message you replied to, there were no factual statements in it. In fact the only unsupported assertion I made (in a previous post) was that the majority of rapes go unreported, which I said based on my experience, but fine, I'll edit that one phrase
Date: November 1st, 2006 11:09 AM Author: slate site
I dunno dude ... I went to Duke UG too. I agree that the women's center was a little over zealous. But seriously almost every girl that I knew at Duke well enough to talk about the issue had been raped, date-raped, or sexually assaulted in some way. Some of them put themselves in situations where date rape was highly likely, but some of them didn't. For about half of these girls, their only transgression was to go to a bar or party and be in the wrong place at the wrong time (they weren't drinking excessively or acting sluty, either). Basically it seemed that any girl who was fairly attractive, not a hermit, and not monogomous would have this problem at some point. It's a pretty messed up situation when you think about it.
Date: November 1st, 2006 11:29 AM Author: comical metal bbw
i do know many women who were sexually assaulted at duke. my own crazy theory: men cannot understand women and rape because of our more aggressive/violent tendencies, i.e. if someone tried to RAPE me in the way it's commonly understood i would try to claw out their eyeballs, literally rip their balls off, etc. RAPE is about the most horrible thing that could happen to anyone, so it doesent make any sense in a non-violent rape situation where their isnt serious physical coercion that females wouldnt fight back. none of the women i know fought back.
Date: November 1st, 2006 12:07 PM Author: slate site
I'm sure that happens in some circumstances. But one of my friends was raped after being drugged. It's hard to imagine that the guy didn't know what he was doing.
I think it's just a fact of life that if a fairly attractive woman drinks at a party or bar without close friends who carefully watch and protect her, she is running the risk of getting raped. Women can minimize this risk by buying their own drinks, watching the person who makes them, and having friends/significant others who watch them and don't let them go home with other people if it seems like the woman isn't making a conscious choice. But women who don't do so are placing themselves at risk. (I'll leave judgment as to the morality of this all to others.)
Date: November 1st, 2006 11:28 AM Author: Hilarious Laser Beams
At my undergrad they made every Frat guy go to a rape lecture thing while we were pledges. They told us that it is impossible for someone who is drunk to give consent, so if we have sex with a girl who has been drinking at a frat party then we are rapists.
Doesn't seem to make sense to me though, because in most situations where you go to a frat party and meet a girl, you will both have had a few drinks. So if neither of you can consent because you are both drunk, then you are raping each other? Common sense has to be used at some point, but some radical feminazis want to label almost all intercourse as rape.
Date: November 1st, 2006 11:35 AM Author: flirting twinkling stain den
On a more serious note, have they done anything at Cravath to curb the fallout? I mean, this is pretty big news, and as a Cravath partner, I'd be pretty embarassed about it.
Date: November 1st, 2006 11:37 AM Author: Hilarious Laser Beams
not really. this was some random non-partnership track Tax associate who had only been there a short time (cravath takes a few non-partnership track lateral associates for certain areas like tax). It's not like it's anything the law firm can control...some guy has sex with girls on the side, what are you going to do about it? It's not like he had any kind of history of this shit. it could happen anywhere.
Date: November 1st, 2006 11:40 AM Author: flirting twinkling stain den
I don't know, Cravath's structure troubles me. They don't hire laterally, so the firm will hesitate to fire anyone because it needs the manpower. When it realizes there's a douchebag in the firm, it nevertheless has a strong incentive to keep him on board because they can't get anyone else to fill his shoes.
Perhaps this happened with the child rape guy (he wasn't a lateral I believe... he started there as a 1st year).
Date: November 1st, 2006 11:43 AM Author: Hilarious Laser Beams
You don't have a very good understanding of how Cravath works. First, there was never any indication that this guy was a potential sexual offender. Second, the entire Cravath system is structured around turnover. They try to hire the best and the brightest to stay there for 3-4 years, then 90% of them leave and a couple stay to make partner. Asserting that they don't want a potential rapist to leave the firm because they won't have anyone to fill his shoes is absurd.
Date: November 1st, 2006 11:48 AM Author: comical metal bbw
the problem is legally this makes sense: sex is an agreement that requires consent, thus no intoxication is a condition. but practically to the layman it will always be bs that, sex with a woman somewhat intoxicated = rape. talking of date rape pollutes the conversation because of this simple fact that most people will never accept it as "real" rape.